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Breakthrough and Miracles 2016 – Don’t Betray Yourself

Breakthrough and Miracles 2016 – Don’t Betray Yourself

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Its 2016 Phamily! Im grateful and excited! This is the year of Breakthroughs, Miracles and much more!

Lets define breakthrough. The English thesaurus says, Advance, innovation, invention, revolution, discovery, development, step forward, leap forward, and new idea. YOUR breakthroughs will be big, small, and unusual. Just pay attention.

Add heading (2)Dont betray yourself. Examine patterns of sabotage. How many times have you arrived at a breakthrough and then BAM! Your moment is shut down. Undermining entities such as disappointments and low self-confidence lull your soul asleep to not notice patterns. Lets analyze the effects of undermining entities. What were your emotions and inner talk?  The people that you once assisted did they reciprocate? Were you operating in confidence or apologetically? Were you subconsciously looking at past failures and comparing them to the present moment? Do you see what Im getting at?

WAKE UP CALL. The good thing is patterns never change their modus operandi. Each time your moment was usurped, you had your pity party, got back up and tried again. Resiliency. It strengthened areas that demand a time out to recognize, dissect, and assess, specific behavior, thoughts, and actions. This needful process awakens awareness and challenges you to view your decisions from an aerial vantage point. But more importantly, it forces you to be a vigilant watchdog of your emotions, thoughts, behavior, and who is steering them. In my next blog on 1/9/16, Ill discuss what and how to Uncreate Contracts, a construct of sabotage.

This is our year of breakthroughs, miracles, new doors, opportunities of Gods promises. Lets do this!

On my Facebook page, Author Lana M Hooks, I am posting twice weekly a breakthrough that will happen. Join me and write your breakthrough in the post comment section. Our breakthroughs are real and they will come to pass.

I’m so glad to present to many and introduce to other’s Neil Vermillion. If you haven’t read any of his blogs by all means do so! I guarantee you he can assist you with words of wisdom and insight to reach your breakthroughs! Please check out Neil Vermillion at Daily Prophetic Word. Thank you, Neil, for adopting me into your family! 

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And as always you are not alone! Sweet sleep and angels keep!

When you look in the mirror do you know the person looking back-

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Book Cover – Ariana Rivera, “Dirty Breath: Trapped by Rejection”; Kelle Hines: Studio 414 Portraits, Inc., “How I Loved Myself”

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Quote – Humatora, Anime

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A Blessed Holyday and New Season in 2016

snow1I miss the snow!!! Living in the south snow is the one part of nature that reminds me of happier times, serenity, and fresh starts! So this picture is my reminder of FRESH STARTS! What’s yours? (Just a little homework for the holydays…lol)

I would like to take this time and thank all of the people who supported me this year by reading my blog and sharing it with others. And thank you to Alicia Cunningham and Nicole Cunningham for being my guest bloggers! Love their coloring books for adults. Great gift for the child in you that loves to color! I’ll be looking for more guest bloggers in 2016!

Keep reading, sharing and subscribing!

It’s no small feat that in between your day to day life task and challenges that you took your time and read what was on my heart. I hope that in some way it gave you peace, shown light along your journey, or was an answer to a question.

In January, specifically, January 2nd I will return with NEW BLOG TOPICS and FREEBIES for you. Also, I’ve written a workbook about building new emotional foundations and strategies and how to execute them. Can’t wait to get it in your hands!

As you are carving a ham, turkey, duck, or lamb do the same for yourself. Time is precious so don’t let it all be for others and none for yourself.

  • Reflect on this year and spend time with the Divine to see what next is in store for you.

  • Review what beliefs you laid to the side and those you are now walking out into your being.

  • Reject any thoughts that try to invade your space to want to pull you from your space of contentment, peace, love, joy, forgiveness, etc.

  • Renew your mind, body, and physical space.

1. Meditate beforehand when you know you will be around family, friends, and co-workers. If you decide, for your well-being, that you don’t want to, it’s perfectly okay. Be at peace with your decision.
2. Don’t forget to take a walk, yoga, aerobics, weight training, whatever your thing is, just move your body. If you are in a geographic location where the weather is nice then get out and enjoy nature. If not, open your curtains, look a the snow while YouTube has your favorite exercise video on and go for it! Lol! Just don’t forget to take care of your temple!
3. Lastly, switch furniture around or buy that item you’ve been spying in the store since forever. I know I am! You know, that little something that reminds you that this year you did some inner work and you see the changes. You are not undervaluing your worth anymore! You see the validity in your thoughts, opinions, and words. So purchase that candle, dress, shoes, makeup, journal, pen, tablet, whatever your item is purchase it – on SALE of course and preferably after Christmas…lol!

Well Phamily I wish you and those who love you a

BLESSED HOLYDAY AND A 2016 WITH NEW ADVENTURES, BREAKTHROUGHS, AND GOALS!

Enjoy one of my favorite songs “This Christmas” by Donny Hathaway

One more thing if you are looking for a gift consider purchasing my book “Dirty Breath: Trapped by Rejection.” If you don’t want repeats of behaviors, actions or words then this is the book for you. Recognize and lay aside patterns so when you look in the mirror you recognize the person looking back. lana_web_book_cover

And as always you are not alone! Sweet sleep and angels keep!

Namaste’

Lana M. Hooks

A Blessed Holyday and New Season in 2016

snow1I miss the snow!!! Living in the south snow is the one part of nature that reminds me of happier times, serenity, and fresh starts! So this picture is my reminder of FRESH STARTS! What’s yours? (Just a little homework for the holydays…lol)

I would like to take this time and thank all of the people who supported me this year by reading my blog and sharing it with others. And thank you to Alicia Cunningham and Nicole Cunningham for being my guest bloggers! Love their coloring books for adults. Great gift for the child in you that loves to color! I’ll be looking for more guest bloggers in 2016!

Keep reading, sharing and subscribing!

It’s no small feat that in between your day to day life task and challenges that you took your time and read what was on my heart. I hope that in some way it gave you peace, shown light along your journey, or was an answer to a question.

In January, specifically, January 2nd I will return with NEW BLOG TOPICS and FREEBIES for you. Also, I’ve written a workbook about building new emotional foundations and strategies and how to execute them. Can’t wait to get it in your hands!

As you are carving a ham, turkey, duck, or lamb do the same for yourself. Time is precious so don’t let it all be for others and none for yourself.

  • Reflect on this year and spend time with the Divine to see what next is in store for you.

  • Review what beliefs you laid to the side and those you are now walking out into your being.

  • Reject any thoughts that try to invade your space to want to pull you from your space of contentment, peace, love, joy, forgiveness, etc.

  • Renew your mind, body, and physical space.

1. Meditate beforehand when you know you will be around family, friends, and co-workers. If you decide, for your well-being, that you don’t want to, it’s perfectly okay. Be at peace with your decision.
2. Don’t forget to take a walk, yoga, aerobics, weight training, whatever your thing is, just move your body. If you are in a geographic location where the weather is nice then get out and enjoy nature. If not, open your curtains, look a the snow while YouTube has your favorite exercise video on and go for it! Lol! Just don’t forget to take care of your temple!
3. Lastly, switch furniture around or buy that item you’ve been spying in the store since forever. I know I am! You know, that little something that reminds you that this year you did some inner work and you see the changes. You are not undervaluing your worth anymore! You see the validity in your thoughts, opinions, and words. So purchase that candle, dress, shoes, makeup, journal, pen, tablet, whatever your item is purchase it – on SALE of course and preferably after Christmas…lol!

Well Phamily I wish you and those who love you a

BLESSED HOLYDAY AND A 2016 WITH NEW ADVENTURES, BREAKTHROUGHS, AND GOALS!

Enjoy one of my favorite songs “This Christmas” by Donny Hathaway

One more thing if you are looking for a gift consider purchasing my book “Dirty Breath: Trapped by Rejection.” If you don’t want repeats of behaviors, actions or words then this is the book for you. Recognize and lay aside patterns so when you look in the mirror you recognize the person looking back. lana_web_book_cover

And as always you are not alone! Sweet sleep and angels keep!

Namaste’

Lana M. Hooks

Gratitude – Kanye’s “College Dropout”

college dropoutPreparing to sit down and work on a story I felt led to listen to Kanye’s, “The College Dropout.” I listened to it one time when it first dropped in 2004. I was in a different head space at that time and truthfully I didn’t care for it. Eleven years and nine months later, sitting in front of my laptop on Spotify, the explicit version, I listened and heard Kanye West. Fresh, raw, urban, angry, mad, didn’t give a f…k yet thankful, grateful, and excited for the experience that he had gone through in creating and producing his first story on CD. It was his – story, his – path, his – awareness, of all that went into creating him, making him, being him. Every song was his autobiography from sacred to cultural to secular that created his huemanness, his – story.

The path routed for him began with a mother who educated her son on the socioculturalpoliticalreligious history of being Black in America and the Diaspora. His family indoctrinated him to their norms, verbal vernacular, behavioral and oral traditions at gatherings, religious beliefs, and family beliefs. The streets taught him the raw life, people living from day to day, having to do what they do to survive. But yet at the end of the CD he recounts every step, every setback, victory, stall, risk, delay, betrayal, with a laugh, or a f…k you, I’m gone make it anyway attitude. He invites people who saw his struggle, were a part of his struggle, who believed in him to share in his victory. I heard his GRATEFULNESS! He was acutely AWARE of the highs, the lows and the in-betweens of his journey.

femalelisteningtomusicI listened and heard him over and over again for about six hours. Getting acquainted with artist that I now listen to, specifically a spoken word artist from Chicago, J. Ivy, believe me, I’ve matured since 2004. Now you’re probably asking what does this have to do with #emotionalabuse, #verbalabuse, #domesticviolence #academicbullying #rejection, #religiousbullying, and #abandonment. My answer is Kanye’s arrival at his CD being revealed was not without its share of hardships. No, I’m not comparing his journey to domestic violence but what I am saying is he never gave up.

It’s hard when you have a dream and choices made from an ill formed foundation delay those dreams. Whether those choices involve others who’ve you collaborated with that either betrayed you, delayed you or didn’t believe in you, they all taught you something. You just have to take the time, sit down somewhere quietly and hear what the lesson was and watch the AHA moment lightbulb come on! I know you may regret some things but don’t stay there in that land its death valley. Allow the entities Awareness and Gratefulness to lead you to higher ground.

I know it hasn’t been easy but as Kanye was retelling his – story you could hear the low points that were infused with laughter. I’m sure hind sight is 20-20 but he laughed, or chuckled. His high points he was ecstatic, joyous and sometimes you heard the ambiguity in his voice. The emotional rollercoaster of his tale was infused with every emotion imaginable just like yours and mine, but his victory was the CD. Finally, after four years his sweet spot, his intangible dream made tangible. Isn’t that what we all want our intangible dreams made tangible? I know I do. I’m not making light of anyone’s journey. I don’t compare oranges to apples. Everyone’s journey is relevant to that person. And soul wounds no matter how deep still hurt. But I’m going to ask that you join me this season, and not just regulate it to a season, but daily give thanks, and be intentional to be grateful!

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I call GRATEFULNESS an entity! Words carry energy by reason of their definition. Fall into the arms of AWARENESS to recognize and discern or be sensitive to the situations in your life.

Gratefulness means:

 “Warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received; thankful:

I am grateful to you for your help.

2. Expressing or actuated by gratitude:

A grateful letter.

3. Pleasing to the mind or senses; agreeable or welcome; refreshing:

A grateful breeze.” (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/gratefulness)

Exercise

1. Read GRATEFULNESS’ definition over and over again. Allow the energy of every word to infuse itself into your psyche, brain waves, cells, and skin.

2. Read the definition again and put feeling into it. It’s going to sound phony but be intentional about “gratefulness.” This energy wants to be a part of you.

3. One more time, let’s read it again with EVERYTHING YOU’VE GOT!

4. Do you feel the words?

5. Now, grab your pen, pencil, crayon, chalk, felt pen, smartphone, tablet, laptop, paper, or chalk board, whatever and sit somewhere quietly.

6. Take a situation from your life and ask your Divine, the Universe, and your God for an aerial view to see it from a higher perspective. Stay quiet and hear the answer.

7. How did this situation contribute to your present moment? What lesson did you learn? How has that moment changed you?

8. Evaluate your character, your belief system, your personal philosophy of life. View the impact, allow the emotions to pass through this one last time, now let them go and send them back to the abyss.

9. Last instruction. Write down what you are grateful for and keep that list for future reference. I’m sure you’ll have to repeat this exercise again.

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10. I AM GRATEFUL FOR YOU READING MY JOURNEY EACH TIME I BLOG. THANK YOU FOR COMMENTING AND LETTING ME KNOW IT IS HELPING YOU ON YOUR VOYAGE. I APPRECIATE YOUR KINDNESS AND TIME. #YOURPRESENCEMATTERS #YOURVOICEMATTERS #YOURLIFEMATTERS

Namaste’

Happy Thanksgiving Phamily!

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My Halloween Story

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For the last fifteen years my life has been turned upside down financially, spiritually, socially, physically, combined with the transitioning of family members. I’ve cried, screamed, distanced myself, smiled, attached, forgave, and acquired new belief systems, while old ones weren’t going without a fight. To be more specific, financially, I have been in a place of learning that money is a tool to be utilized to give, build up, be a blessing, to restore dreams and prolong life. I’ve had the entity called Pride knocked outta of me to ask for help, learned how to separate my wants from my needs, and God can do more with less. But the greatest lesson was to learn that God is the supplier of all my needs, wants and desires. Places of employment are the means of earning a paycheck, meeting new people, and learning new skills but again it is not my supplier. Even though I’ve learned this lesson the Universe never stopped downloading dreams and goals that I strongly wanted to perform in the earth. A major part of my personality is that I’m goal oriented. I eagerly worked on those dreams and goals which started off wonderfully but ended up either fizzling out or floating on a buoy.

 I’ve lived a certain way and with that comes a mindset due to circumstances of “well, I guess it’s going to be this way.”  The promises made from the Universe still remained dreams and not manifestations. And it didn’t matter how many people known and unknown were sent my way to keep the dreams alive the disappointments of them not coming into fruition produced a hope deferred. Whether I consciously said it aloud or as a subconscious decision it was made nonetheless.

AB11876This year came in with a different aura. The entity “Hope” was spreading her message all through the land from secular to sacred and both were speaking the same language. I was listening. I heard her cry in the streets and opened my window to let her voice ring in my house. I was happy, excited, and elated until I saw in the third quarter that those promises, dreams, and goals made to me were popping out of my journals, in dreams, and people’s voice to make way for them to manifest. I really believed I was ready! Even though I had been waiting for a very long time I just knew I was ready but my past was right there too. It brought along with it my disappointments, mistrust, deferred hope, rejected attempts, and used to “the way” I had been living which was barely enough to make it by the skin of my teeth. A few insecurities, bad judgements, and misperceptions were thrown in the mix too from having passed this way before in religious settings where I experienced “religious abuse.” To put it succinctly I was scared shitless. Fear ten Hope three but Hope had a plan in the hole.

heart broken womanHope and I have been riding together for a long time. We were down like ‘four flat tires and a spare,’ but I was scared and my heart remembered too much. But she was not giving up that easy. This Halloween was different for me. I don’t celebrate it but damn if the witches, ghouls, ghost, and nightmares didn’t join my past to scare me from making a choice. I woke up from a dream that was not pretty but I knew it was from God. I researched the places, colors, light, dark, objects, etc., and I kinda’ knew what it was speaking but I asked God to reveal what He was really saying to me. I sat my tablet down.

I am taking a webinar course on Influence Training and it is spiritual but not religious. It was a panel of people praying for men and women fifty and over to go the length and “do” their dreams. I was watching the chat bar line being filled with request for prayer for sicknesses, finances, etc. I added my request to the plethora of wants/needs to the chat line.

Transparency: I asked prayer for the entity of ‘Rejection’ and ‘Inferiority’ to be removed.

amazed womanThe chat bar was moving like lightning and even though it was at least four people on the panel watching it and praying for various people I ‘hoped’ someone would see my request. Certain words were being spoken to various people and I was sincerely happy for them to be receiving words of encouragement and kindness. And yes, some of those words rang for me as well and I received them, but it was not until one man who I thought left the webinar came back onto the panel. He said (not verbatim but close to it), “there are people on here who have lived a certain lifestyle for a very long time and are afraid that their promises won’t happen. You’ve been rejected by people and attempts to do better but you decided whether you knew it or not that life wasn’t going to get any better than this.” My mouth hit the floor. He also said, “In a way you’ve gotten use to lack and not having, thinking that well, it’s probably going to be this way, but God says emphatically, No! The promises I’ve made to you are coming to pass. Trust me. Believe one more time and watch me make them come to pass.” As I sat on my wooden bench in front of my laptop I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. God not only answered my request but the dream He gave me that early morning was explained in the word He gave the guy. In that instance I chose to believe Him one more time. It reminded me of a moment I had on New Year’s Eve back in nineteen ninety-four when I made a lifestyle change. The heaviness and dread lifted and I know this is my time. I made a conscious decision to leave my past, beliefs, and the feelings of that era behind. Now I’m not naïve to know that I will have to work my dreams out but I’m collaborating with some wonderful people who mean business. They desire to leave a legacy for our children and another kingdom built on and in Love.

Yeah, my Halloween was spooky but Hope, God, and my conscious decision scared the boogeymen away. And on top of that I had an extra hour to sleep and be restored down to the cellular level. November 1st came in with a refreshing.

If I’m speaking to anyone who has been abused religiously or even in relationships with people of authority and the entities ‘Fear, Rejection, Abandonment, and Verbal Abuse’ are trying to keep you in your past – RUN!  I know the emotions from yesteryear will try and convince you that it won’t be any better but it will be better this time. No, I didn’t say it will be rainbows and lollipops but trust the God of your creation to make it better. Yeah, I know, I trusted Him lotsa times too and nothing came of it but today you know what I discovered? I wasn’t ready for those dreams back then. He was just showing them to me because He wanted me to get my feet wet, reveal to me my pattern of leadership, and to know that my original desires to have a business He honored then and honors now. But we can’t do it alone. I know that’s scary, believe me, I know. But He will send people to assist you so trust and listen to your instincts, guts, and that nagging you feel…lol! Ask for Lady Wisdom and she will show up and give you the words to speak and ears to listen. These new people may have some traits of those that abused you before but take a breath, get still, and ask for your angels to surround you along with Peace. These are not those people. It will work out for you. I believe that for you and for me. I’m not suggesting anything to you that I’m not practicing myself. Like I’ve been saying to you in all my post, “You are not alone.” Let’s walk this place called Life together. Your past won’t let go so easy but you have the power of choice to let go of it.

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Namaste’

Now listen to the lyrics of one of my favorite songs from the 80s by McFadden & Whitehead “Ain’t No Stoppin’ Us Now.” That’s my theme song as I dance down the Soul Train of Life! Join me Phamily!

Until next time know that you are not alone, sweet sleep, angels keep!

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Coloring as a Meditative Practice

Coloring as a Meditative Practice
Hey Phamily! I have a surprise for you! My good friend and author/mentor Alicia McCalla (and yes you must check out her website and subscribe, awesome writer of Multicultural Speculative Fiction) is my guest blogger for this week! Yay!!! She and her sisters (affectionately, the Cunningham Sisters) designed a coloring book for adults that desire to meditate in another form or just relax.
Phamily, you’ve been doing a lot of inner soul work these past few weeks with me that had your brain, organs, cells, and bones dealing with trauma filled places. Today, right now, this present moment, go get your crayons, your child’s crayons, or go and purchase them from the Dollar Store. But first before you grab your purse or wallet, sit down and read how coloring can help you be in a position of authority to reconnect to the alienated parts of your soul. I introduce to you Alicia McCalla, the eldest of the Cunningham sisters.
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Did you know that opening a box of Crayola crayons and then smelling them is a way to reduce the anxiety associated with a panic attack?  Coloring has a way of helping us to calm down, reduce stress, and relax.

Active meditation is the use of repetitive motions such as running, walking, dancing, and of course, coloring. In fact, coloring can help to strengthen focus and shift your attention to a contemplative state. While you color, chaotic thoughts and extreme worries are pushed aside. Your brain is able to simply focus on the task of the gentle, repetitive motion of your hands as you bring color to paper.

There are other health benefits to your brain while coloring such as the selection of the colors and focusing your attention on highly detailed images.  These help your brain to open centers of creativity, ingenuity, and logical thoughts.  With all of the wonderful health benefits to coloring, you would think that everyone would regularly participate.  Unfortunately, meditative coloring is just beginning to take off in the United States.  If you are interested in an easy, affordable and cost effective way to reduce stress, boost creativity, and help your brain relax, try coloring.

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Here are a few tips to creating a Meditative Coloring Experience:Get yourself some highly detailed images to color such as a Mandala or other coloring book. Stop by our website: www.sisterscoloring.com to immediately receive free coloring pages.

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  1. Make yourself a cup of healing herbal tea (Chamomile is great) or you might enjoy a small glass of Kosher red wine.

  2. Select your favorite coloring utensils. I love gel glitter pens but crayons, markers etc. are all wonderful to use.

  3. Begin your coloring session by smiling for one full minute. Don’t shirk on this one. Time yourself, if needed.

  4. Put on your iPod and listen to Alpha or Brainwave music. I have a BrainWave App and listen to “Positivity Boost.”

  5. Color your image. Allow the color choices to “speak” to you. Don’t push the choices just allow the choices to happen. Be amazed in the end…

  6. Drink your tea, listen to music, and color for a 30-60 minute session.

  7. After your session ends, if your image is complete, sign and date it.  You can also write any quotes, thoughts, or ideas that revealed themselves to you during your coloring session. Go ahead, write them on your coloring pages or keep a journal handy. Feel free to put your images in a frame or give them away as gifts.

Coloring is an amazing way to meditate, heal, and reduce stress.  Take some time to relax and color.

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Alicia is the eldest of the Cunningham sisters. If you’d like to try a coloring book for active meditative practice, try Meditation: Sisters Stress Relief Mandalas and Patterns (Volume 2).  Alicia and Nicole are two of the Cunningham sisters.  They are inspired by their artistic mom and love to color. Alicia writes Dark Fantasy and Science Fiction. She’s also a school librarian. You can find her work at www.aliciamccalla.com. Nicole is an aspiring Cozy Mystery author and works as a social worker. Visit them at www.sisterscoloring.com to receive your free coloring pages.

What Are You Accommodating?

familypixHi Phamily! I truly hope all is well in you and with you! Today I’m going to jump right in and ask you a question.

WHAT ARE YOU ACCOMMODATING?

You are probably asking, “What is she talking about? Accommodating what?”

Well, last week I was looking at one of the most inspiring Life Coaches on the planet Iyanla Vanzant’s, “Fix My Life,” television show. She told a client that she was accommodating her dis-ease in which the manifestation was “obesity.” To give you a brief synopsis of the situation the client’s mother died several years ago and as a result parts of her laid down in the coffin with her too. Before that traumatic moment she was the life of the party. Inviting people over for barbecues or celebrations of b’earthday’s was her way of participating with her friend’s in life. She and her mom were extremely close. They were like sisters and the best of friends. You didn’t see one without the other at any time according to friends and family. The absence of her mother created a void in her life that no one or anything could replace. Keep reading what that void created.

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One, physically, the manifestation as I mentioned before was “obesity.” She gained a mass of weight [600 lbs.] (EMOTIONAL EATING). Two, she slipped and fell going to the bathroom in her home. The fire department had to come, lift her up, and put her back in the bed. She was so embarrassed that she consciously decided to not leave the house (SHAME, GUILT, HURT, PAIN, DISAPPOINTMENT, ANGER, RAGE, EMBARRASSMENT). This resulted in a breach of not only being with friends but “making” her teenage child become her caretaker. She washed her mom, cleaned her mother’s personal needs in the bed (she couldn’t get up anymore to go to the bathroom), and brought her foods that were not healthy. Watching her mother’s decline physically, mentally, and emotionally seized this young lady’s teenage years, reversed the view of the roles in their relationship,  and abandonment of a mother in her life (ABANDONMENT OF SELF CARE, CHILD, & SELFISH). To accommodate her lifestyle all of her medications, toiletries, sterilized bed pads were placed within arm’s reach. Basically anything that she needed to accommodate her conscious based lifestyle was placed in the boundary of her arm span.

The word “accommodate” reverbrated over and over inside my stomach. I felt the ping or the energy of that word move in me and didn’t stop until it reached cellular level. I asked myself several questions:

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  1. What familiar generational, cultural, or unserving religious belief system was I accommodating inside my temple, my soul, my mind?
  2. What emotional habit was I consciously or subconsciously making that was keeping me in an emotional, physical, mental, or economic rut?

Let’s go deeper shall we.

I even had to look at the time of the year I was making a major change in my life.

  1. Is it the same time of year every year and why the same time?
  2. What is significant about that time of the year?
  3. If I make this same goal at the same time of the year why am I sabotaging this goal?
  4. What am I afraid of? Why do I believe I’m not worthy of fulfilling my goal?
  5. What is on the other side of completing my goal that I think I can’t handle?

These are the questions that we all have to answer before we conquer our goals. This is a part of “The Four R’s on Your Journey,” specifically Recognize and once truthfully answered Restore will greet you with the emotions, behaviors, ways, and means designed for you to utilize to complete your goals. Spiritually you will be given the innate strength, mental fortitude, and the entity Desire will fill your very soul (mind, emotions, body) to want to complete your goals.

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You are not alone family. You have a legion of angels surrounding you to enforce and reinforce your new beliefs. It takes repetition for a belief to become a system and these angels are here to assist you. These angels are visible and invisible. Surround yourself with people that only have your good in mind. They Desire with you to see your goals accomplished. These people will have a “NO” in their mouths when it is needed but it will always be accompanied in the heart of LOVE! You will hear instructions and encouragement spoken to you first by your Creator and then reaffirmed by your earthly angels. By this I mean when I hear through the means of what my soul gravitates to (a book, movie, marquee sign, etc.) a friend in casual conversation will say something to reinforce or offer more of an explanation of what I’ve heard. Your Creator wants you to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that He hears your concerns, you matter, and you are on the right track.

This is my belief and you don’t have to believe in what I’m about to say but I believe in the unseen help and we do entertain angels unaware. I’ve had people to help me and I’ve never seen again. I believe in a force that is unearthly strong and they are working on your behalf when your strength wanes. I believe that any horrendous situation you’ve encountered could have been worse than that just because those angels held back what really wanted to kill you emotionally, mentally, socially, spiritually, and physically. If you believe this then you have to ask yourself, “Who am I really to the Creator and what am I to do in the Earth that Evil wants to take me out?”

This question as you progress on your journey will be answered along the way. You will see yourself differently as the twin entities Recognize and Restore usher you into your new creation of authenticity as the sleeping giant in you is awakened and revealed.

Keep seeking, believing, and taking the necessary risk to reveal more of your emotional, physical, mental, social, spiritual, and economical authentic self.

YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Namaste’,

Lana

I’ve posted the 2nd part of the “Remember My Story,” video! Hear how she accommodated the ‘Rejection,’ and ‘Abandonment,’ of her parental mother and little brother. And again, get out the tissue but really listen with the entity ‘Pay Attention’ to see the patterns of her emotions and behavior when trigger words or uncontrolled situations pushed her buttons. See if you can relate to her story. I know I did. 

Until next time know that you are not alone, sweet sleep, angels keep!

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You can purchase my memoir, “DIRTY BREATH: TRAPPED BY REJECTION,” at https://www.createspace.com/5102704 and at Amazon under the title. I would love to speak at your next book club meeting (Atlanta metropolitan area), or have a virtual book club meeting through social media. I am also available to speak at your church, organization, or conference.

Contact me at: authorlmhooks@gmail.com Yay!

Lastly, please share this blog with other people you know that can benefit from it. I want our community of people to know we were/are not alone and there is help for the adult child to be emotionally healed. You just have to want to do what it takes and that my friend is a road uniquely designed for your transformation!

“What emotional legacy do you want to leave your child? Mine was Rejection. What’s yours?”lana_web_book_cover

 

Your Story – Stumbling Block to Building Block

heartyfruitHey Phamily! I truly hope all is well in your world and your journey has been productive. Since we’ve last talked I’ve been receiving some wonderful comments from people who have enjoyed reading my thoughts and journey and I just want to take the time to say THANK YOU!!! I really don’t take for granted when you leave a comment and say words of encouragement and kindness to let me know that my journey and what I’ve learned and still learning is helping you! That is a blessing to my soul. Again, THANK YOU!  Keep commenting and I’ll keep responding.

Well, these last couple of weeks so much has been happening in my world that I want to share just a bit with you. And by the way this is a part of RECOGNIZE AND REMOVE, the number’s two and three of The Four R’s on Your Journey. Yes, we are still here because these twins work together to align whatever part of your  life that is being recognized, removed and in the process of being healed to restore you authentically in those areas! I must admit I’ve been having a heaven/hell (just depends on what the issue is) of a time in revisiting areas of my life that I thought were complete, finished, dismissed, GONE! But…there is always a but. I found out that there is some residue that needed to be cauterized. YES, cauterized. Remember, I shared with you in my blog “Words Followed By Signs” that I didn’t like confrontation, and I had to confront the motherlode of all bully’s head on. Well, since then I’ve been confronting other people as well, not as intense as the first one, but nevertheless, it is becoming easier to do so. The fretful words are coming out of my mouth but with the motive and intent of my heart to heal both parties involved. A double edged sword (words) is used to cut both ways. One side is to destroy that which wants to kill you (not the person just their negative energy) and the other side is to heal that inside you that no longer serves you. In essence, I voice my concerns to the person and inwardly (in my soul) fear, rejection is being replaced with courage, power, love, and a sound mind. I no longer want a “soul” connection with the other person’s pain. I want my wound to be cauterized so their wound will no longer connect with what was once in me as well. Let your wounds be cauterized. It’s been amazing to see this process but I must admit it can be agonizing at times.

cauterize

meditatingWhat helps is prayer, meditation, and mantras. I speak in the affirmative. I say, “I choose not to catch anyone’s negative  energy this day,” or, “I am worthy!” To say these mantra’s and scriptures in the ‘Now’, tells your subconscious mind that what you are saying is active at that very moment. You are creating your experience in the present moment. Place your scriptures or mantras where you will see them daily. I see mine every morning  on my vision wall in front of my bed when I wake up. Your scriptures and mantras will build a fortress around your  mind, body, and emotions. The more you say them you are reinforcing them, empowering them, to protect you from other people who may not be aware they are carrying negative energy. But you are protecting yourself with an armor that helps you to stand against verbal blows and possibly removing you from physical harm. Words have energy by their definition and carry the intent or motive of the human thereby releasing them through their breath. Speak your positive words to keep you strengthened, your vibration high, and fortified in your soul. Self-love is priceless phamily.

prayer

My prayers are sometimes two words. THANK YOU! Prayer is a conversation with your Divine and Infinite Intelligence. Actually I find myself praying arbitrarily throughout my day. It’s just a conversation in either me expressing gratitude, worship, asking for protection, or help with something that concerns me or someone else. Some people do have set times and that is fine, others do it throughout their day, or, a mixture of both. It’s whatever you gravitate to. Don’t make it rigid. Be flexible and loving in prayer with your Divine.

buildingblocksI say all of this to really make one point. Your story can either be your stumbling block or building block. When a child plays with blocks they either stack them up or beside each other. They will fall and the child may cry but will eventually pick them back up to start building again. Our stories are similar to those blocks. Think about how your life has gone from one block to the next and just when you think you’ve completed an area in your life and it’s dealt with, the blocks fall. At that moment you want to chuck it and just give up but something, and I like to think, the entity Hope comes in and gently nudges you and says, “No, build again but do it differently this time.” You see some blocks you may not need anymore to complete an area of your life. You had to many blocks the first time but this time you may only need just a few. Don’t allow a few times in an area of your life that the blocks have fallen stop you from trying again. You really are so close to a wound being healed fully, yes, cauterized and your authenticity restored.  Seriously, you are very close…I believe with you!

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And now I invite you to watch a story titled, ReMoved! Get the tissue out but please sit with the entity Pay Attention to her story. Look and listen to the building blocks of her life. Until next time you’re in my thoughts and prayers!

ASSIGNMENT: Fortify your soul with positive scriptures, mantras, and prayers. The more you say them watch when someone says something negative how it bounces off of you. The entity PAY ATTENTION will alert you to how you don’t feel as if someone has kicked you in the stomach. Let me know if this helps you!

Travel safely, sweet sleep, angels keep, and know that you are not alone!

NAMASTE

NEXT TIME: ANGELS

NEED A BOOK CLUB SPEAKER, KEYNOTE SPEAKER, OR WORKSHOP LEADER

I’M AVAILABLE!

You can purchase my memoir, “DIRTY BREATH: TRAPPED BY REJECTION,” at https://www.createspace.com/5102704 and at Amazon under the title. I would love to speak at your next book club meeting (Atlanta metropolitan area), or have a virtual book club meeting through social media. I am also available to speak at your church, organization, or conference.

Contact me at: authorlmhooks@gmail.com Yay!

Lastly, please share this blog with other people you know that can benefit from it. I want our community of people to know we were/are not alone and there is help for the adult child to be emotionally healed. You just have to want to do what it takes and that my friend is a road uniquely designed for your transformation!

“What emotional legacy do you want to leave your child? Mine was Rejection. What’s yours?”

 

Your Story – Stumbling Block to Building Block

heartyfruitHey Phamily! I truly hope all is well in your world and your journey has been productive. Since we’ve last talked I’ve been receiving some wonderful comments from people who have enjoyed reading my thoughts and journey and I just want to take the time to say THANK YOU!!! I really don’t take for granted when you leave a comment and say words of encouragement and kindness to let me know that my journey and what I’ve learned and still learning is helping you! That is a blessing to my soul. Again, THANK YOU!  Keep commenting and I’ll keep responding.

Well, these last couple of weeks so much has been happening in my world that I want to share just a bit with you. And by the way this is a part of RECOGNIZE AND REMOVE, the number’s two and three of The Four R’s on Your Journey. Yes, we are still here because these twins work together to align whatever part of your  life that is being recognized, removed and in the process of being healed to restore you authentically in those areas! I must admit I’ve been having a heaven/hell (just depends on what the issue is) of a time in revisiting areas of my life that I thought were complete, finished, dismissed, GONE! But…there is always a but. I found out that there is some residue that needed to be cauterized. YES, cauterized. Remember, I shared with you in my blog “Words Followed By Signs” that I didn’t like confrontation, and I had to confront the motherlode of all bully’s head on. Well, since then I’ve been confronting other people as well, not as intense as the first one, but nevertheless, it is becoming easier to do so. The fretful words are coming out of my mouth but with the motive and intent of my heart to heal both parties involved. A double edged sword (words) is used to cut both ways. One side is to destroy that which wants to kill you (not the person just their negative energy) and the other side is to heal that inside you that no longer serves you. In essence, I voice my concerns to the person and inwardly (in my soul) fear, rejection is being replaced with courage, power, love, and a sound mind. I no longer want a “soul” connection with the other person’s pain. I want my wound to be cauterized so their wound will no longer connect with what was once in me as well. Let your wounds be cauterized. It’s been amazing to see this process but I must admit it can be agonizing at times.

cauterize

meditatingWhat helps is prayer, meditation, and mantras. I speak in the affirmative. I say, “I choose not to catch anyone’s negative  energy this day,” or, “I am worthy!” To say these mantra’s and scriptures in the ‘Now’, tells your subconscious mind that what you are saying is active at that very moment. You are creating your experience in the present moment. Place your scriptures or mantras where you will see them daily. I see mine every morning  on my vision wall in front of my bed when I wake up. Your scriptures and mantras will build a fortress around your  mind, body, and emotions. The more you say them you are reinforcing them, empowering them, to protect you from other people who may not be aware they are carrying negative energy. But you are protecting yourself with an armor that helps you to stand against verbal blows and possibly removing you from physical harm. Words have energy by their definition and carry the intent or motive of the human thereby releasing them through their breath. Speak your positive words to keep you strengthened, your vibration high, and fortified in your soul. Self-love is priceless phamily.

prayer

My prayers are sometimes two words. THANK YOU! Prayer is a conversation with your Divine and Infinite Intelligence. Actually I find myself praying arbitrarily throughout my day. It’s just a conversation in either me expressing gratitude, worship, asking for protection, or help with something that concerns me or someone else. Some people do have set times and that is fine, others do it throughout their day, or, a mixture of both. It’s whatever you gravitate to. Don’t make it rigid. Be flexible and loving in prayer with your Divine.

buildingblocksI say all of this to really make one point. Your story can either be your stumbling block or building block. When a child plays with blocks they either stack them up or beside each other. They will fall and the child may cry but will eventually pick them back up to start building again. Our stories are similar to those blocks. Think about how your life has gone from one block to the next and just when you think you’ve completed an area in your life and it’s dealt with, the blocks fall. At that moment you want to chuck it and just give up but something, and I like to think, the entity Hope comes in and gently nudges you and says, “No, build again but do it differently this time.” You see some blocks you may not need anymore to complete an area of your life. You had to many blocks the first time but this time you may only need just a few. Don’t allow a few times in an area of your life that the blocks have fallen stop you from trying again. You really are so close to a wound being healed fully, yes, cauterized and your authenticity restored.  Seriously, you are very close…I believe with you!

blocksfalling

And now I invite you to watch a story titled, ReMoved! Get the tissue out but please sit with the entity Pay Attention to her story. Look and listen to the building blocks of her life. Until next time you’re in my thoughts and prayers!

ASSIGNMENT: Fortify your soul with positive scriptures, mantras, and prayers. The more you say them watch when someone says something negative how it bounces off of you. The entity PAY ATTENTION will alert you to how you don’t feel as if someone has kicked you in the stomach. Let me know if this helps you!

Travel safely, sweet sleep, angels keep, and know that you are not alone!

NAMASTE

NEXT TIME: ANGELS

NEED A BOOK CLUB SPEAKER, KEYNOTE SPEAKER, OR WORKSHOP LEADER

I’M AVAILABLE!

You can purchase my memoir, “DIRTY BREATH: TRAPPED BY REJECTION,” at https://www.createspace.com/5102704 and at Amazon under the title. I would love to speak at your next book club meeting (Atlanta metropolitan area), or have a virtual book club meeting through social media. I am also available to speak at your church, organization, or conference.

Contact me at: authorlmhooks@gmail.com Yay!

Lastly, please share this blog with other people you know that can benefit from it. I want our community of people to know we were/are not alone and there is help for the adult child to be emotionally healed. You just have to want to do what it takes and that my friend is a road uniquely designed for your transformation!

“What emotional legacy do you want to leave your child? Mine was Rejection. What’s yours?”

 

How Do We Stop…

familylineage2Hey Phamily! I truly hope all is well with you and your journey in restoring your authentic self. It’s not just a destination but it’s the journey that reveals those parts of your emotional, mental, social, vocal, physical, and spiritual self that have been scattered to the nether parts of your soul. And believe me it is possible to be restored your authenticity in the aforementioned areas. Don’t worry about the time or the how because if you passionately, strongly and any other adjective that you use Desire to be Restored it will happen. I didn’t think it was possible because of my age but that excuse had to be thrown out asap. Why? Because your Desire, magnified to the nth degree, will far outweigh the number of your years on earth and the Divine will restore those lost years with what you missed plus more as a gift to you.

I see you giving me the side-eye…lol!  side eye

That’s okay. I gave the side-eye to the person that told me this too, especially when they were younger than me. But it’s true, I promise you it is. Your childhood adversity can be laid to rest. You just have to Desire it strongly enough and Believe that the Divine can do it. What helps is that you change your Perception of your life’s course. This will in turn change your Trajectory of your path to Restoration. And by the way this is still a part of “The Four R’s on Your Journey,” Recognize. How have you viewed your life’s course up until this point? I know I viewed mine from the entity of Rejection’s perception. From my career choices, to friendships, to financial decisions, and social gatherings, I walked in knowing that I wouldn’t qualify for the higher paying positions, or, I feared in managing my monies. In friendships I knew they would eventually go sour and I would be the dysfunctional cause, and no man that I really liked would like me back. I think you get the picture. Rejection was my perception and my trajectory lined up with what I believed due to how it had been from a little girl. The pattern, I thought, was set and my life spelled out but something happened.

I began to meet people, read books, listen to songs, hear life coaches (remember these are the ways in which my soul authentically gravitates toward) speak another language on positive self-esteem, critical self-talk, anger, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, etc., and you know what I listened. The more they talked the more I listened and desired to be restored. Being healed far outweighed my pain and I wanted to do whatever it took to think with my thoughts, feel with my feelings, and speak unashamedly without seeing a hand hit me in my mouth in my mind’s eye.

prayingwoman1I prayed to God everyday and moment to help me be healed and more importantly open my eyes to see how He wanted me to assist. You know what I kept hearing? Believe. At first it pissed me off because I was like, is that all? It’s got to be more than that. But each time I asked the question my answer was the same. So, I asked Him to help me. I asked Him to open my eyes to see what He saw in me when He created me. I asked Him to make me Aware of my feelings, voice, and thoughts. I wanted to know me inside out. I asked for the entity of Paying Attention so I would know and could write down my thoughts, and know what my feelings felt like and I could hear how my voice really sounded in my ears. I was subconsciously waking up daily and quickly I might add to see this person that I thought I lost at the age of ten. And quite frankly I’m still getting to know me. It comes in stages. There were parts of me that were deeply imbedded in my soul that I didn’t want God to touch. The pain was to great and I wanted to hang on to my anger. I felt that I was justified in my anger and why not? They did it to me. You know who your they are. But it got to a point where I Recognized and was Aware that carrying those they’s were emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically weighing me down and affecting my health. My back hurt more than ever and I was being Tormented by past scenes, situations, and words almost minutely. I cried out to God to remove them from me. I believed He could remove them but I did have a part to play, and phamily, this is not easy but it is necessary. forgive3

Forgiveness as I’d learned was not the definition I grew into. It doesn’t mean you forget what happened to you but it does mean that the anger, rage, murder, blame, hurt, pain, unforgiveness, hate, of your abusers is seen from only, and I do mean only a Divine’s perspective and the intensity of your emotions in that traumatic moment is gone. Now, if there is another way then by all means let me know, but this the way I learned to forgive. The Divine, utilizing what I normally gravitated to books (fiction and non-fiction), positive speakers, dreams, visions, the supernatural if you will, showed me why my abusers behaved the way they did. He did not justify their actions toward me but He explained their behavior to me.

He explained it to me in several ways. The first way was He showed me in conversations I had with someone close to them who knew them as a child. They were eye witnesses to the ill actions that were heaped upon them by a parent or someone they knew in authority. Ten times out of ten your abuser was abused. But I must admit I asked the Divine, “If they were treated the same way then why treat me the exact same way?” The next way was the clincher. I was shown how I exhibited the same behavior only in a different mode. Let me explain. Pride. Yeah, let me talk about the big dogg I’ve had to wrestle with. You would think after all I’d been through that the entity Pride would be the last challenge I’d have but it was the first one and a big one. I was prideful in sneaky ways like if someone didn’t know something and I did I inwardly viewed them as dumb, or I know more than them. I’m going to shame the devil today by being transparent. My God knows all about it because I stand before Him naked and unashamed so…I will leave that there…lol!  Also, I thought that I knew the best way to manage your life when my life was in shambles…but I could tell you what YOU needed to do. If that is not the pot calling the kettle black I don’t know what is…LOL! Yes, phamily the entity Pride is a monster and I rush to my God telling Him when it rears its head. So when I saw me as my abuser’s it was an humbling experience and forgiveness was my key to exit and leave that place of Righteous Anger of what they did to me. I too was an abuser and a Religious Bully at that. My memoir explains more about my religious upbringing. Now I don’t know if my abuser’s wanted to know why they behaved in such a manner or even realized that their behavior was abusive but I do know that God is an equal opportunity employer. I can’t answer for them but…

I forgave. Soul freed. Intense emotions from that abusive moment are gone. Forgiveness attained. Done. forgive4

When you see yourself as the abuser it puts a different spin on Forgiveness. Now I can talk about horrid past scenes without my emotions being involved. Or, as the young adults say, “I’m not caught up in my feelings.” I can see the situation from a Perception that is whole and healed and my Trajectory is changed because I’m Aware of my words, thoughts, and feelings and also how Pride can enter. Also, I do pray as led for those who abused me. Knowing what I know about them it is easier for me to assess their emotional terrain when a certain behavior comes on the scene. I do know how to protect myself as well. Just because I forgave them doesn’t mean I put myself in harm’s way. Wisdom phamily, Wisdom. 😉 And you do know that what you wrestle with will come back and try you again. It wants to see if the door is really closed and Forgivess is on guard.

Well, I have a TedTalks I want you to listen to. It’s located on the right side of your screen where normally I’d put a music video. But today I invite you to listen to Benjamin Perks and his talk on “How Do We Stop Childhood Adversity from Becoming a Life Sentence,” TEDxPodgorica. It is worth fifteen minutes to really listen to and view his film.

I promise you Forgiveness is just waiting on you to acknowledge how heavy your soul is carrying all those people, their words, behaviors, and abusive acts toward you around. Your mind, body, and emotions will thank you. Oh, one last thing. Co-workers, peers, and family are noticing how much weight I’ve lost. And I tell them, “Thank you. I’m getting those other people off and outta me.”

Till we meet again travel safely, have a sweet sleep and angels keep, and know that you are not alone.

Namaste’

NEED A BOOK CLUB SPEAKER, KEYNOTE SPEAKER, OR WORKSHOP LEADER

I’M AVAILABLE!

You can purchase my memoir, “DIRTY BREATH: TRAPPED BY REJECTION,” athttps://www.createspace.com/5102704 and at Amazon under the title. I would love to speak at your next book club meeting (Atlanta metropolitan area), or have a virtual book club meeting through social media. I am also available to speak at your church, organization, or conference.

Contact me at: authorlmhooks@gmail.com Yay!

Lastly, please share this blog with other people you know that can benefit from it. I want our community of people to know we were/are not alone and there is help for the adult child to be emotionally healed. You just have to want to do what it takes and that my friend is a road uniquely designed for your transformation!

“What emotional legacy do you want to leave your child? Mine was Rejection. What’s yours?” 

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