Healthy is the New S.E.X.Y.

journeyconnectBefore I begin, this blog it is not to put down anyone’s weight loss program or dietary regimen. This blog is not solely about physical weight or diet. It’s about focusing our attention and listening to what “health” and being emotionally and mentally healthy has to sound out. This is a movement to bring “Healthy” back to center stage.

Today, more than ever in our present climate, we necessitate taking charge of our inner house – thoughts and emotions. With social media feeds swiftly reporting the political and social contentions it’s easy to get overwhelmed, discouraged, and pressed down. Hearing and reading these feeds excessively will breed presupposed fears and behaviors that lead to desperate actions. This induces the physical body and brain to work in a ceaseless state of injury. Runaway thoughts will torment your mind while your emotions are roller coasting all over the place.  These extreme changes will manifest in illness and dis-ease.

focus2My mission in this hour is to pay attention and centering on being healthy emotionally and mentally. We totally need a safe space to vent our concerns and promote one another. Whether you’re single, married, have children or not, employed, unemployed, or self-employed we all call for encouragement. Communication is more than just language. It’s listening, viewing, really hearing and reading between the lines what someone is saying or not saying.

I am asking that you look and listen to your family, those in your work environment, friends, significant others and really pay attention to them.  Write, text, or email them a note to encourage and brighten their day.  I started this at my place of employment with some of the ladies that I work with. It has really got off and is positively affecting their day.

boygirltagI enjoy games. Recall the game “IT”? Where you hit someone while running and yell “You’re it!” Well, I took the premise of this childhood game and updated it to fit our current way of communication and connecting. I.T. is an acronym for “Infinite’s Tiara” which means you’re “God’s Crown” and S.E.X.Y means “Souls. E.volving. X.periencing. Y.ou.” Your soul is ever-changing to higher states of living, thinking, and being.

All you have to do is send someone an encouraging word by text, email, or a handwritten note. It doesn’t matter if they are passing through a trying moment or in a good head space right now. To recognize that somebody is paying attention to you just feels good. Kind words can be stored up in your psyche for those days when you’re not in a secure place.

Here is an example, “Your I.T., the Infinite’s Tiara: I know you have a lot on your plate right now. With a sick parent, planning a wedding, and more job duties, wearing these many hats is tremendous pressure on you.  When all you really want is to just be you and left alone for a few minutes to breathe.  This weekend, take some time and steal away to a tranquil spot.  Even if you have to drive I-285 and scream to release the weight of your responsibilities off  and out of your body- do so.  Your mind, body and soul will thank you and bring you a gift – a new perspective.” #HealthyistheNewSEXY. Remember to place a hashtag before Healthy is the New S.E.XY. So it will be written #HealthyistheNewSEXY.  This is the tag line of the movement.

woman with diaryI have so much on my plate that I am reducing my blog to bi-monthly. The next blog is April 5th. In the meantime #hashtag people in your life an encouraging word and let their endorphins bring a smile to their soul. Lastly, enjoy a man and a song that can make anyone feel good – Sylvester and 2 Tons of Fun!

You’re I.T. The Infinite’s Tiara: Go out and dance those blues away! #HealthyistheNewSEXY

Namaste’

“You cannot die unless you connect with someone.” God-Eater

Set Your Intentions – Be Brave!

Set Your Intentions – Be Brave!

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May is my birthday month. Yes, my age changes, but I’m more concerned with maturing spiritually, mentally, intellectually, socially, financially, and relationally. I called for an inventory of what things need to be modified and what needs to go away.

As a good deal, I’ve read from life coaches to listen to your “gut” or “internal voice” I found it challenging to act thus. Why? I allowed my emotions to run amok and speak louder in situations, thus overruling and distorting my perception. But I told myself for the month of May I wanted to do something different and I did. Yes, my emotions bucked because they were used to ruling the roost. But I made myself sit quietly and allow my emotions, their say, and then when they wound down I said four words – PRESENT, PROTECTED, PRAISE, & PEACE.

Now mind you I learned this meditation technique from Richard Miller, PhD  founding president of the Integrative Restorative Institute. The following exercise has greatly aided in calming my mind and easing my soul into a lying state. It didn’t matter the surroundings, I was in I still was able to do this technique. At work, on the bus, walking, and in my car now, it works. As you practice this exercise you will notice unresolved past hurts enter your mind like a New York marquee sign. It’s tiring and nerve-wracking but believe it or not, it’s a good thing. The more unresolved issues that are elevated to the surface means it’s time to release or modify. Too, this exercise assisted in discovering the little voice to identify which one that I needed to perform.

maturemeditationAs you answer the following questions pay attention to how they make you feel. Start with your first knee-jerk response. Don’t think long or you’ll think wrong. You desire that “what feels good” solution.

 

 

1. What is my deepest desire for practicing meditation?

2. How many minutes each session am I truly willing to dedicate to the practice?

3. How many days a week am I truly willing to meditate?

4. With respect to a particular meditation session, what is my deepest desire for and during this session? (For instance, is your goal to welcome a particular sensation or to remain undistracted by what’s arising in your awareness, and instead to experience and abide as awareness?)

“Then, express each intention as a concise statement of fact in the present tense, as if it’s already true. This enables your subconscious mind to register your intentions as actualities instead of possibilities, giving them greater power to materialize. For example, instead of saying, ‘I will meditate five days a week for 20 minutes each time,’ affirm, ‘I meditate five days a week for 20 minutes each time.

Next, pick one, two, or even three intentions and shorten them into simple, easily remembered phrases. For instance: ‘I meditate three times a week for 10 minutes each time’ can be stated as ‘Three and 10!’ ‘I’m kind and compassionate toward myself’ becomes ‘Kindness!’ And ‘I speak truth in each and every moment’ becomes ‘Truth!

Finally, repeat your intentions internally to yourself at the beginning of, throughout, and at the end of every meditation practice. Always affirm your intentions with deep feeling and certainty, with your entire body and mind.”1

Phamily, practice this exercise and reply below if it helps you as a good deal as it has served me. Here’s to your excellence in soul (intellect, body, emotions) health!focus2

Namaste’

 

 

 

Listen to one of my favorite “brave” warriors – Brene Brown. She has challenged me to get back up when I fall.  And each time I do I am  intentionally being brave!

“There is no shame in falling. It’s only when you don’t get back up you allow shame to win.” LMH

 

1 Richard Miller, PhD, “The Staying Power of Intention – How setting the right intention can help you stick with a meditation practice,” Yoga Journal  May 2016:  34.

Go Further

Go Further

 

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Go Further

These two words from a sister friend haunt, yet, excites me. It’s a challenge to go beyond what you’ve been told, what you’ve heard, and what you’ve seen. It matters not the dysfunctional family circumstance, or not, you were born into. Your past familial decisions and interactions, yes, can be a factor but in your grasp, you have the power of choice. Another statement echoes heavily in my mind, “When you know better you do better.” You do have viable thoughts, a relevant voice, and emotions that can be healed and balanced. I’m stating what I’m practicing daily. Go further.

Go further.

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Being African American, majored in African American Studies, and a reader I’m constantly reminded of those who’ve laid down their very lives for freedom?  Sometimes I wonder if this is really the 21st century. It’s funny. I’ve been rummaging through my black history books and papers from undergraduate and graduate school. I compared articles from the past with articles in the present. With the exception of the date, names, and places it’s a “Different century but same shit.”  It’s sad that we have to proclaim that #BlackLivesMatter in 2016. Just as “Black Power” was the war cry of the late 60s and 70s this is our rallying cry in the new millennium. Really?! When I see that hashtag an image in my head from Spike Lee’s movie, “School Daze,” stands out and it’s at the end of the movie. Laurence Fishburne is outside in the college yard screaming at the top of his lungs “WAKE UP!” Beyoncé is on the chopping block for her song “Formation” at Super Bowl Fifty for honoring her culture. WOW! Look at the media hype when someone of her stature honors her culture. The true consciousness of a people emerges when a culture takes pride in their ethnicity. The terms “radical, arrogant, terrorist, militant, thug, not appropriate” among others are yelled in arrogance and ignorance. Sad.  I want to act surprised but I can’t. This is the reality as of February 14, 2016, and it’s getting worse.

Go further.

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People are being let go from their employment without a hint of the impending notice. The sensitivity and delicate subject of releasing employees are handled like pigs in a slaughterhouse. They are not withdrawing enough monies from their employees to even file for unemployment. This is devastating for families who are living paycheck to paycheck which is ninety-eight percent of America.

Even as I write this I still hear “go further,” ringing in my head. I believe there is something beyond this level of consciousness that we are to exhibit. It will take guts, courage, risk, insight, and faith for humanity to make this jump to a higher consciousness.

Can it be done? Yes, one person waking up, letting go of what no longer serves them, learning the lessons in every situation, and courageously taking steps one day at a time.

Will it be done? Yes, by few, but sincere and choosing to live, walk, and be in their authenticity.

Go further is a mandate. It’s a proclamation followed by individual decrees. It’s a resolve to be an authentic human, be the change in the world, and to not be sidetracked by the rhetorical garbage spewing in every form of media.

Allow a different spirit to overtake you and see there are no giants in the land. That power is in your hand, and if not, ask the Universe to show you who took your power and take it back! The Universe is waiting for you to show up. The Universe is on your side and loves you. I know it’s hard to believe that but take the risk and find out for yourself. This is your time to “Go Further!”

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Remember you are not alone! Sweet sleep and angels keep! Namaste’lana_web_book_cover

Listen to one of my favorite motivational coaches – Lisa Nichols! This is Google Talk and she is sharing from her new book, “Abundance Now.” Listen and listen and listen again! This phenomenal woman is here to show us that “ordinary people do extraordinary things.” Let her push you into making your dreams become concrete!

Lisa

Mini or Me?

Mini or Me?

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I’m sure you’ve seen the Austin Power movies with Dr. Evil and his sidekick Mini-Me who mimics him. Watching a marathon of these movies, I can’t remember which one, Dr. Evil’s biological son returns home and Mini-Me gets jealous. In his mind, he’s been the faithful son for a long time and now he’s being replaced. He desperately tries to regain his position with Dr. Evil but he rejects Mini-Me’s attempts at mimicking him. What once made Dr. Evil so happy is now a turn off to him since his biological son has returned.

fatherdaughterskyI thought of how children try their hardest to impress their parents especially first born children. Parenting does not come with a rule book, or a set of instructions to teach you how to raise a child. So what do most parents do? They raise their child like how they were raised. Teaching them the same way as they were taught but not giving a thought at times that not everything they learned was necessarily all good. Parents pass down character traits, beliefs, mannerisms, opinions, ideologies, likes, dislikes, and even colloquial terms that first born children pick up quickly.

motherdaughtercookingMy last blog talked about uncreating verbal contracts that we make on a daily basis consciously or subconsciously with words. Before I go any further let me be very clear again not everything taught by parents were in error or removed you away from your authentic self. For instance, my mother’s love of reading, writing, and the English language is my love too. That’s a good thing. But her fear of people and evading conflict was not a good thing and I picked that up as well. You see where I’m going with this. Her books became her escapism to not face harsh realities. And as much as I saw that and disliked it I too did the same thing. It’s not easy tearing away the parts of you that were consummated from a parent. Your emotions are torn in half because you are divorcing yourself from their wounded soul to reclaim your true identity, emotions, thoughts, and voice. It feels like a betrayal. You’ve been a mini-me image living in their world for so long that now that you want to reclaim your authentic self but it feels like abandonment. And to be honest with you, you are abandoning certain traits that were never you in the first place. It’s okay.

motherdaughtersittingThis is an identity contract that you must uncreate. Children no matter the birth order are born with their own unique personality. It’s not fair to their psyche or the Creator to repress their thoughts, emotions, and voice. Yes, they will have features, and partial mannerisms but they will have an opinion and a voice. Let them. Actually, Dr. Evil did Mini-Me a huge favor by rejecting him. I know it didn’t feel right at the moment. Dr. Evil, without thought, sliced Mini-Me away from him but in the end, Mini-Me discovered he was his own person and didn’t need Dr. Evil.

As harsh at it may be seizing your soul back from another soul is the best thing you can do for yourself. Discovering your thoughts, beliefs, mannerism, and voice is an exciting adventure that is priceless. Think about it two souls housed in one soul are multiple souls or personalities vying for top position. Eventually, one will reign supreme and you are forced to make the decision as to which one it will be.

We’re moving into February but by year’s end don’t you want to know the person in the mirror staring back? Take some time before the next blog and write down:

  • Several things that you learned from a parent or one in authority over you as a child that you no longer serves you.
  • Uncreate the contract with that character trait, word, belief, mannerism, opinion, ideology, and replace it with what YOU want.
  • Go back to the last blog and repeat the words to uncreate the contract with what you’ve written above or write your own. Empower yourself utilizing your own words.
  • Start your discovery journal of what you really think, believe, and say it aloud to hear your voice. It’s something about hearing the sound of your voice in your ears that makes this exercise real in reclaiming your soul.

God made you in His image. If you look around not one person looks like the other except identical twins and even they have differences. It’s time for your image to be known in the earth, your thoughts to be written, and voiced in the earth. It’s time for you to be present and accounted for, not mini-me, just me.

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Until next time remember that you are not alone and “Sweet sleep and angels keep!”

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Uncreate the Verbal Contracts

Uncreate the Verbal Contracts

 

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It’s time to delete the tape! It’s time to evict the people living inside your head, beliefs, emotions, and voice! It’s time to delete the memories in your cells! It’s time to tell those negative words, unseemly behaviors, and low-frequency thoughts to go! It’s time to uncreate the verbal contracts and break through your authentic self and life!

You were consistently verbally abused as a child and agreed to believe those words. I know you were a child and didn’t have the wherewithal to fight the words. You internalized this to mean, “You weren’t good enough.” But now you are at a crossroad in your adult life and choices must be made to uncreate the verbal contracts or stay aligned in agreement with the enemy of your soul. Are you ready?

Every word and statement, write down the person(s) name who said it. In another column write an I AM statement about you. For example, I AM INTELLIGENT, OR I AM CREATIVE. This may take a while so take breaks. You can do this in stages. It can be emotionally intense. Take your time. Write a few words and people for an hour a day and speak aloud the below declaration. Say aloud your new I AM affirmations daily too. Move in that vacant space your new beliefs hearing your own voice.

When you have completed as many as you can say aloud the following declaration with the Restorer of your soul!

 I renounce and denounce every word spoken to me that I’ve believed from a child. I am not these words and statements. I am a child of I AM! And I am fearfully and wonderfully made! I am a divine being created in the image of I AM. I choose to speak I AM forth by rewriting my mental, emotional, and physical script with my voice and behavior.

For those who attacked me with their religion and co-signing God’s name to their abuse, I renounce their god of bondage and fear and choose to learn God for myself. I renounce and denounce the language of a slave and I speak the language of freedom! I am worthy. Period.

On this day ______________ I uncreate every verbal contract that I agreed to and by the great I AM I ask that it be destroyed and sent back to the sender. Amen

You will repeat this declaration as needed. You’ve existed in another persons reality for a long time and they don’t want to leave so easily. Those memories are in your cells and must be removed.

The next few techniques are excellent ways of clearing your cells. Take walks, being in nature clears your mind. Another practice is to take your hands and pat them, on the top of your thighs like you’re walking.  One last exercise is to fold your arms and take your hands and pat your arms like you are walking. It seems strange but that motion blocks negative mind chatter.

You are Removing, what no longer serves you and Restoring’ your authentic emotions, thoughts, and voice! This is a journey so take steps and read my friend Neil Vermillion’s blog. He has insight that will assist, affirm and order your steps daily.

In my next blog January 30, 2016, I will discuss “Forgiveness.” I may have a special guest blogger to walk you in forgiveness. This is her field of expertise. Meanwhile, enjoy Ms. Janet Jackson’s “Control.” We know WHO is really in control of our lives but “Self-Control” is a ‘Fruit of the Spirit’.  Until thenknow that you are not alone, sweet sleep, and angels keep. 

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Coloring as a Meditative Practice

Coloring as a Meditative Practice
Hey Phamily! I have a surprise for you! My good friend and author/mentor Alicia McCalla (and yes you must check out her website and subscribe, awesome writer of Multicultural Speculative Fiction) is my guest blogger for this week! Yay!!! She and her sisters (affectionately, the Cunningham Sisters) designed a coloring book for adults that desire to meditate in another form or just relax.
Phamily, you’ve been doing a lot of inner soul work these past few weeks with me that had your brain, organs, cells, and bones dealing with trauma filled places. Today, right now, this present moment, go get your crayons, your child’s crayons, or go and purchase them from the Dollar Store. But first before you grab your purse or wallet, sit down and read how coloring can help you be in a position of authority to reconnect to the alienated parts of your soul. I introduce to you Alicia McCalla, the eldest of the Cunningham sisters.
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Did you know that opening a box of Crayola crayons and then smelling them is a way to reduce the anxiety associated with a panic attack?  Coloring has a way of helping us to calm down, reduce stress, and relax.

Active meditation is the use of repetitive motions such as running, walking, dancing, and of course, coloring. In fact, coloring can help to strengthen focus and shift your attention to a contemplative state. While you color, chaotic thoughts and extreme worries are pushed aside. Your brain is able to simply focus on the task of the gentle, repetitive motion of your hands as you bring color to paper.

There are other health benefits to your brain while coloring such as the selection of the colors and focusing your attention on highly detailed images.  These help your brain to open centers of creativity, ingenuity, and logical thoughts.  With all of the wonderful health benefits to coloring, you would think that everyone would regularly participate.  Unfortunately, meditative coloring is just beginning to take off in the United States.  If you are interested in an easy, affordable and cost effective way to reduce stress, boost creativity, and help your brain relax, try coloring.

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Here are a few tips to creating a Meditative Coloring Experience:Get yourself some highly detailed images to color such as a Mandala or other coloring book. Stop by our website: www.sisterscoloring.com to immediately receive free coloring pages.

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  1. Make yourself a cup of healing herbal tea (Chamomile is great) or you might enjoy a small glass of Kosher red wine.

  2. Select your favorite coloring utensils. I love gel glitter pens but crayons, markers etc. are all wonderful to use.

  3. Begin your coloring session by smiling for one full minute. Don’t shirk on this one. Time yourself, if needed.

  4. Put on your iPod and listen to Alpha or Brainwave music. I have a BrainWave App and listen to “Positivity Boost.”

  5. Color your image. Allow the color choices to “speak” to you. Don’t push the choices just allow the choices to happen. Be amazed in the end…

  6. Drink your tea, listen to music, and color for a 30-60 minute session.

  7. After your session ends, if your image is complete, sign and date it.  You can also write any quotes, thoughts, or ideas that revealed themselves to you during your coloring session. Go ahead, write them on your coloring pages or keep a journal handy. Feel free to put your images in a frame or give them away as gifts.

Coloring is an amazing way to meditate, heal, and reduce stress.  Take some time to relax and color.

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Alicia is the eldest of the Cunningham sisters. If you’d like to try a coloring book for active meditative practice, try Meditation: Sisters Stress Relief Mandalas and Patterns (Volume 2).  Alicia and Nicole are two of the Cunningham sisters.  They are inspired by their artistic mom and love to color. Alicia writes Dark Fantasy and Science Fiction. She’s also a school librarian. You can find her work at www.aliciamccalla.com. Nicole is an aspiring Cozy Mystery author and works as a social worker. Visit them at www.sisterscoloring.com to receive your free coloring pages.